How Wise People Deal With Disappointment2 min read
I clearly remember the earliest disappointment in my life.
I was about four years old and was expecting to go to a party. But then I was informed that I was not invited. And I took it very personally.
That’s all I remember, but as an adult, that same feeling of disappointment arises any time I have an expectation dashed. When I don’t reach a goal, get what I want or am rebuffed in any way, these ancient familiar feelings pay an unwelcome return visit.
Be aware that in growing your business or in marketing your services you are literally setting yourself up for some degree of disappointment.
Not everyone will love what you have to offer and a great many will show complete indifference. And that kind of rejection, even though it’s rarely personal, can trigger feelings of disappointment, discouragement, and even despair.
The question is, how do you deal with disappointment?
I’ve experienced some disappointment in the past few weeks about not getting a couple clients I really wanted to work with.
So I’ve been ruminating about the whole issue of disappointment and how to think about it in a way that helps me move on to the next project.
This morning I looked up some quotes about disappointment and I found them very encouraging in their perspective.
“The beauty is that through disappointment you can gain clarity, and with clarity comes conviction and true originality.” – Conan O’Brien
“If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment.” – Henry David Thoreau
“Burning desire to be or do something gives us staying power – a reason to get up every morning or to pick ourselves up and start in again after a disappointment.” – Marsha Sinetar
“Disappointment is a sticky one, because no one can steal contentment, joy, gratitude, or peace – we have to give it away.” – Kristin Armstrong
“As someone who has faced as much disappointment as most people, I’ve come to trust not that events will always unfold exactly as I want, but that I will be fine either way.” – Marianne Williamson
Yes, disappointments will inevitably come, but if we are open to what is, and not let ourselves become mired in the false belief that we deserve success all the time, things will ultimately work out. The sun will rise the next day and new opportunities will reveal themselves.
Cheers, Robert